When we use the word “trust” we tend to follow it with the word “in” because trust is like the rope that unites subject (the person doing the trusting) and object (the person or thing being trusted). Now it is a most peculiar thing when people say “trust yourself” because in my opinion they mean either a) what it feels like when the action of trusting is done, or b) identify the subject and object of trust as one and the same.

I think I have a problem agreeing with both of those perceived popular definitions. Why? Because trust is not a feeling, but an action. There are times when I have trusted against my feelings (and I admit it, not very often!). Reading Helen’s last 2 posts what comes accross is precisely that, i.e. they carried on walking even thought they felt tired, knackered, etc. We admired them and say: Well done! because they went on regardless of how they felt (or perhaps precisely because the feelings were hardly pleasant).

Does this mean that trust must be done blindly, without feeling? Not really, but we will do well to remember that those of us “feely types” could wait until the cows come home if we had to have the right feeling in order to do the right thing. By the same account, those of us labelled “insensitive types” may make right (or wrong) decisions and yet feel little joy, sadness or pain as aftermath. Just because we lack something (temporarily or permanently) it does not mean that we cannot act nonetheless, even when such action will often involve trust.
Trust in. In something, Something, someone or Someone.

Each one of those possible 4 answers merits another post on another day…. perhaps.

Then, there’s the old saying “think before you act”. We mean this because what we do may not be good, and thinking beforehand allows us to decide whether to go ahead with that bad thought or to discard it. Whether we replace it with a good one is another matter, altogher.

Perhaps what you have been saying, Helen, is that we all suffer from “paralysis from analysis”. Particularly when we know what is right, we know we ought to do it, but we are still afraid to do so. Having said this, those who never suffer from “paralysis from analysis” may suffer instead from fanaticism and from walking where angels fear to tread.

The main thing that came across was that you spoke from your heart which filled everything you said with that boundless passion you have for life.

I’m really looking forward to watching you develop as you stride forwards to becoming a truly inspirational speaker.

WELL DONE! x

Do carry on telling others and do not be afraid or embarrassed to say how grateful you are for your own deliverance and that of other members of your family.